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By Tracey Cox for MailOnline.

Can't stop thinking about someone in the office and desperate for them to ask you out? If you're under 35, the first thing you'll do is try to flirt with them through a social media app. Go right ahead — but good luck interpreting his behaviour simply by seeing how many 'likes' he gives you.

In the old days — before dating apps, when people actually met in person — we'd consciously and subconsciously read each other's body language to find out who was interested and who wasn't. It's a lost art — but a damn good one to reacquaint yourself with because body language can tell you if someone fancies you before they even know it themselves.

Not only that, you can use body language to send secret als without ever having to be the first one to make the move. Here's 16 secret s he's interested. Relationship expert Tracey Cox revealed 16 s for interpreting how your workplace crush feels about you file image.

How to tell if he likes you back: The good news. The top four giveaways he's keen. His smile gets bigger when he sees you, he moves in close when you speak, leans towards you and makes eye contact.

How to tell if a guy likes you at work: 17 subtle s he’s into you

But don't give up if this doesn't happen: he might be shy and you won't be the first to interpret shyness as arrogance. If he makes direct eye contact but then his eyes slide away, only to come back again, he's nervous but can't help himself looking at you. His feet point directly towards you. Our feet point to where we want to go. If his point directly towards you, he's happy staying where he is.

If his torso points towards you but his feet point towards the door, not such good news. He's sitting down? If he's sitting with legs wide apart and feet firmly planted on the floor, directly facing you, he's effectively saying, 'Here I am.

Take a good look at what's about to be yours. His 'flirting triangle' is big. Eye movement studies show we look at different parts of other people's faces depending on the situation and level of attractiveness.

With strangers, we make a small triangle by moving our eyes from eye to eye, dipping them as we move across the bridge of the nose. Tracey pictured says nervous behaviour is a your crush may be interested. With friends or work mates we know well, the triangle widens as our eyes drop below eye level to include the nose and mouth. With people we're attracted to, the triangle broadens even further, dropping below the mouth to include the breasts and body.

The more he fancies you, the more concentrated the eye contact becomes at certain parts of the triangle. He's blinking a lot. If someone looks at you and likes what they see, they tend to blink more. This is because the brain associates rapid blinking batting our eyelashes with finding someone sexually attractive: the more you blink at someone, the more attracted you feel to them. If you blink more when talking to your crush, he'll unconsciously try to match your blink rate, to keep in sync with you — which in turn, makes you both feel more attracted to each other!

He 'squares' when he sees you.

In go our tummy's, out goes the chest when we 'square' — he's making himself look his best. He hesitates when you're aroundnot knowing whether to leave or stay or chat or not. He's fiddling with his clothing or his hair when he sees you approach. He's preening: we preen when we want to look our best. Men preen by straightening their collar, smoothing clothing and smoothing or mussing their hair, depending on the style.

10 s guy at work likes you

His body language mimics yours. This is called 'mirroring': we like people who are like us and the quickest, most effective way to bond with someone is to do what they do. Most mirroring is done subconsciously but if you find he leans forward when you do or leans back when you do, it's a sure-fire he likes you.

He teases you. He tries to attract your attention. This is a very good. For some men, this might mean a slight shift in their chair along with a silent prayer you'll notice the flash of movement. Others aren't so subtle and are practically jugging and doing handstands the second you're in view. Tracey revealed facial expressions such as raised eyebrows are a give away of how interested your crush is in what you're saying file image.

His eyebrows are raised when he's talking to you. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. He simply finds you boring.

He stands with his hands on his hips. He'll lend you his coat or sweater if you're out and about.

This is a VERY clear al he's keen. It's protective, sexy and an ownership gesture: 'what's mine is yours', something that's been close to my skin is now close to yours.

Sex expert tracey cox reveals the 16 secret s your office crush likes you too (and how to seal the deal with a date)

It smelled of him to begin with and it will smell of you when you return it. He's blocking. We block to keep people in — and to keep them out by using our body or other objects to establish a boundary around ourselves. If he's crossing his arms or moves behind a desk or chair when you approach, he's creating a barrier between you.

He does the opposite to you.

10 s co-workers are attracted to each other

The quickest way to break a moment of intimacy is to change your body language so you're doing the opposite to what the other person is doing. He's secretly wanting to walk or run away if he's rising up and down on his heels, tapping his foot, shifting weight from foot to foot or doing any sort of leg or feet jiggling. This could be prompted by fear he fancies you but you frighten the hell out of him or disinterest.

He's doing an arm cross. Some people do cross their arms for comfort, but just about all of us adopt this position when we feel defensive, protective or threatened.

10 s co-workers are attracted to each other

If he doesn't find you attractive and is aware you are flirting with him — and it's unwanted — this is something he'll do to show the attention isn't welcome. Tracey says a relaxed body can send of a al that you're happy to talk to him file image. How to show him you like him and get him to ask you out. Keep it simple. The average female will send out five times more sexual als than the average man. One study of women flirting in a bar identified no less than 52 moves women use to show men they're interested.

The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female. If you feel like you're being blatantly obvious with your 'ask me out' als and nothing is happening, check they include the basic stuff like smiling and making and holding eye contact.

How to tell if a guy likes you at work: 17 subtle s he’s into you

The als he can't possibly miss. Relax your body. If you're nervous all sorts of dire things might be happening like clenched fists, a tight jaw, rigid spine and shoulders lifted so high, they're practically around your ears. All send a al to him that you aren't happy talking to him. Try to unclench without being obvious about it and breathe.

We often hold our breath when nervous, robbing the brain of oxygen makes us say even sillier things and feel faint. Make sure your body language is open.

Tracey cox reveals the 16 s your office crush likes you

Don't stand with folded arms or hold anything — like a bag or a drink or papers — like a shield in front of you. It puts a barrier between you and them and makes you look defensive. Mirror his body language. As I said earlier, mirroring body language is the single most effective flirting tool at your disposal.

Tracey recommends being aware of your facial expressions and using big smiles to show you're pleased to see him file image. Determining who's just being friendly and who's genuinely interested in you, isn't easy.

Some guys just flirt.